Do you add value to what you say?

We are constantly gauging, evaluating, estimating when others say something which either directly or indirectly matters to us, but hardly concerned about what we say and whether we are able to keep our word. Most often we say just for the sake of saying and it doesn’t bother us at all. This is almost true with most of the people including people who are in a leadership position, sadly Christian leaders are not exempted. With the growing communication platforms, by which I mean, social networks, like WhatsApp and similar chats we have not become any better. We use the same to evade, slip away, escape, procrastinate, hypocritically respond, maliciously pretend and disrespect people by ignoring them forthright but most often in a subtle manner.

I would like to quote a verse, “don’t say to your neighbor “Go away! Come back later, I’ll give it tomorrow” when it is there with you” Pro 3:28. I have observed that people are so accustomed to ignore people when they can actually respond courteously. I am using this in the context of communication. We are so used to saying “I’ll get back” and never feel an iota of guilt to know, that word has been given and they need to keep it. ‘Tomorrow’ for such people never comes.

Why are people not honest and open to communicate correctly? Did they truly forget or pretend they have forgotten because they are not interested for some reason, but not honest enough to express? Let’s know that relationships are built with honest communication. Sometimes I am even forced to wonder about their conviction. Are they using it for their convenience or simply go with their preferences and based on the scope for advantage? It is important to understand that each time we mess up in the way we communicate we distort the gospel and disrupt the relationship.

King David in his psalms talks about the ones who would qualify to stand in his holy presence, in Psalms 24:4 states “.. one who has not sworn deceitfully”, as one of the traits. But most of the people fall in between the two, which means they would neither promise nor say a forthright 'No'. They become deceptive in their responses. Sadly, most of the time Christians also make such politically correct statements.

Drawing out in the context of communication there is this next verse which states “Don’t withhold good from those who deserve it when it’s in your power to help them.”. Proverbs 3:28. Whether it is communication or when you can do something today do not postpone things, it is a bad example of leadership trait. 

It’s a leader’s responsibility to know the difference between right and wrong, no matter what anybody else says or does. You can never be right by doing wrong, and you can never be wrong by doing right. Let us not forget that we are all accountable and are judged for every careless word we speak. (Mat 12:37)

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